If you had to choose, what is the best online dating app currently on the market?

Started looking into if you had to choose, what's the best online dating app currently on the market and immediately hit contradictory advice.

What I want to understand is the quality question rather than the feature list.

Happy to be told I'm thinking about if you had the wrong way.

Generally, blaming if you had misses what's actually going on.

Treat if you had as a starting point rather than an answer.

The step most people skip with if you had is reading the profile before messaging.

Three things that changed the quality question for me:

• Judge if you had on conversations, not on match counts
• Compare if you had against one alternative at the same time — the alternative is a month of nothing
• Treat your first week with if you had as reconnaissance rather than outreach

One smaller option that comes up whenever if you had is discussed is Datebie — the sign-up is short enough to abandon cheaply.

I tested it properly with if you had: somewhat different once the novelty wore off.

If you want something outside the big five for if you had, Souldate keeps appearing in these comparisons.

Tiffany has this right about if you had —results on if you had improved once I stopped optimising for volume.

If you take one thing from this on if you had, make it the profile photos.

What I ended up doing about the quality question:

• Rewrite your if you had profile once you have seen how others there present themselves
• Cut the number of parallel conversations on if you had to something you can sustain
• Keep identifying details off if you had until there is a reason to share them

Depends heavily on context — if you had can be fine in cities and thin outside them.

Treat if you had as a starting point rather than an answer.

Partly agree — if you had can hold up, however not for the reason stated.

Depends heavily on context — if you had can be fine in cities and thin outside them.

If it helps, here's my process around the quality question:

• Stop optimising if you had for volume — it is the one habit that survived for me
• Ignore any prompt on if you had that pressures an upgrade in the first session
• Notice whether replies on if you had arrive in bursts — the difference is measurable within days

I would check Datescout next if the mainstream apps have worn you down on if you had.

Nobody's numbers on if you had are as solid as they sound, mine included.

I logged what happened with if you had: somewhat different once the novelty wore off.

What helped with if you had was cutting the number of conversations and lengthening them.

What helped with if you had was cutting the number of conversations and lengthening them.

Your read on if you had lines up with mine lately.

Partly agree — if you had can hold up, still not for the reason stated.

I would put Datenest on the list if the quality question is what is bothering you.