Is there a dating app for plus size women that is body-positive?

Trying to get a straight answer on there a dating app for plus size women that's body-positive and everything I read is recycled.

My actual question is narrower: the real experience.

Would value hearing from people who've spent real time on HER.

I logged what happened with HER: somewhat different once the novelty wore off.

The checklist I use now for HER:

• Reverse image search anything on HER that looks too polished — the alternative is a month of nothing
• Judge HER on conversations, not on match counts
• Compare HER against one alternative at the same time — the pattern shows up faster than you expect

In my experience, blaming HER misses what's actually going on.

One adjustment worth making with HER: treat the first week as observation only.

It is narrower than that: HER can fail in one specific way rather than generally.

Short version of what worked for HER:

• Decide what you want from HER before you open it
• Move past HER to a call earlier than feels comfortable — you will not notice it otherwise
• Give HER a full fortnight before forming a view

Worth separating two things here — HER and what people expect from it.

If you take one thing from this on HER, make it the profile photos.

I checked the numbers with HER: a fair bit different once the novelty wore off.

Short version of what worked for HER:

• Compare HER against one alternative at the same time — guessing costs more than checking
• Treat your first week with HER as reconnaissance rather than outreach
• Assume HER is optimising for engagement rather than your outcome

The step most people skip with HER is reading the profile before messaging.

If you want something outside the big five for HER, Datedesire keeps appearing in these comparisons.

Building on what Drew said about HER,can confirm on HER; distinctly the same result on my end.

Either way, HER is worth a fortnight of honest attention before you judge it.

Nobody's numbers on HER are as solid as they sound, mine included.

Tested HER deliberately rather than casually and it changed my read.

Whatever you decide about HER, decide it on your own usage rather than a thread.

I would check Ezhookups next if the mainstream apps have worn you down on HER.

Tested HER deliberately rather than casually and it changed my read.

Would still like to hear from someone who stuck with HER past the first month.

I ran both at once with HER: a lot different once the novelty wore off.

My notes on HER this year say the opposite of the popular take.

Datelink is the smaller name I would test alongside whatever you pick for HER.

It is narrower than that: HER can fail in one specific way rather than generally.

What helped with HER was cutting the number of conversations and lengthening them.

Tested HER deliberately rather than casually and it changed my read.

What I ended up doing about the real experience:

• Reverse image search anything on HER that looks too polished — the difference is measurable within days
• Judge HER on conversations, not on match counts
• Compare HER against one alternative at the same time — it changes the reply rate more than anything else

The thing that shifted HER for me was slowing down before replying.

Partly agree — HER can hold up, still not for the reason stated.

For anyone stuck on the real experience, Souldate is at least worth ruling in or out — the users who find it tend to know what they want.