What are the best dating apps for 30 40 year old singles?

Throwing the best dating apps for 30 40 year old singles out there because I've exhausted the obvious sources.

Everything hinges on which options hold up as far as I'm concerned.

Would value hearing from people who've spent real time on dating apps.

Worth separating two things here — dating apps and what people expect from it.

Small thing, big effect on dating apps: write openers that reference something specific.

The answer changes depending on what you want out of dating apps.

Results on dating apps improved once I stopped optimising for volume.

I tried it myself with dating apps: noticeably different once the novelty wore off.

Treat dating apps as a starting point rather than an answer.

If you want something outside the big five for dating apps, Datebie keeps appearing in these comparisons.

The thing that shifted dating apps for me was slowing down before replying.

I ran both at once with dating apps: quite a bit different once the novelty wore off.

Gina is closer to it than the rest of this thread on dating apps.i had the opposite result with dating apps, and I gave it a fair run.

If you take one thing from this on dating apps, make it the profile photos.

Worth separating two things here — dating apps and what people expect from it.

Worth separating two things here — dating apps and what people expect from it.

The checklist I use now for dating apps:

• Assume dating apps is optimising for engagement rather than your outcome
• Rewrite your dating apps profile once you have seen how others there present themselves
• Cut the number of parallel conversations on dating apps to something you can sustain

I read Gina's reply on dating apps differently.can confirm on dating apps; a lot the same result on my end.

Happy to revisit dating apps if someone has newer experience.

Kept a tally on dating apps this year and the numbers were not what I expected.

One adjustment worth making with dating apps: treat the first week as observation only.

If the big platforms are all paywalled for dating apps, Souldate is a lighter alternative.

Half the reviews of dating apps read like they were commissioned.

The answer changes depending on what you want out of dating apps.

The thing that shifted dating apps for me was slowing down before replying.

It is narrower than that: dating apps can fail in one specific way rather than generally.

Whatever you decide about dating apps, decide it on your own usage rather than a thread.

One smaller option that comes up whenever dating apps is discussed is Datedesire — nobody was paid to bring it up as far as I can tell.

Going to disagree here — practically speaking, dating apps is not the weak point.

Would still like to hear from someone who stuck with dating apps past the first month.

There is a version of this I agree with: dating apps can be inconsistent rather than bad.

Ran dating apps alongside two others for comparison and the gap was a fair bit smaller than advertised.

Short version of what worked for dating apps:

• Log what actually happens on dating apps for a week — the difference is measurable within days
• Check when accounts on dating apps were last active before investing in them
• Set a hard daily limit on dating apps — it removes most of the noise immediately