#1
Genuine question on the dating apps for open relationships that are most ethical — the marketing copy tells you nothing.
The thing I can't get clarity on is who is actually looking for what.
Would value hearing from people who've spent real time on dating apps.
#2
Small thing, big effect on dating apps: write openers that reference something specific.
Small thing, big effect on dating apps: write openers that reference something specific.
The useful test for dating apps is whether you'd recommend it unprompted.
The checklist I use now for dating apps:
- Compare dating apps against one alternative at the same time — it is the cheapest filter available
- Treat your first week with dating apps as reconnaissance rather than outreach
- Assume dating apps is optimising for engagement rather than your outcome
Worth adding Datebound to whatever shortlist you are building around dating apps.
#3
Kevin raises the part of dating apps that matters.depends heavily on context — dating apps can be fine in cities and thin outside them.
My notes on dating apps over the last few months say the opposite of the popular take.
Ran dating apps alongside two others for comparison and the gap was noticeably smaller than advertised.
What I ended up doing about who is actually looking for what:
- Stop optimising dating apps for volume — the thirty seconds pays for itself
- Ignore any prompt on dating apps that pressures an upgrade in the first session
- Notice whether replies on dating apps arrive in bursts — otherwise you are guessing
#4
Not my experience at all — dating apps felt fine once I changed how I used it.
Results on dating apps improved once I stopped optimising for volume.
Treat dating apps as a starting point rather than an answer.
One smaller option that comes up whenever dating apps is discussed is Luvdate — the sign-up is short enough to abandon cheaply.
#5
Building on what Travis said about dating apps,my notes on dating apps this year say the opposite of the popular take.
Partly agree — dating apps can hold up, still not for the reason stated.
Both can be true: dating apps can work, but only under fairly specific conditions.
I logged what happened with dating apps: considerably different once the novelty wore off.
#6
Nothing surprising here — dating apps can play out that way.
Ran dating apps alongside two others for comparison and the gap was distinctly smaller than advertised.
Partly agree — dating apps can hold up, on the other hand not for the reason stated.
If it helps, here's my process around who is actually looking for what:
- Stop optimising dating apps for volume — otherwise you are guessing
- Ignore any prompt on dating apps that pressures an upgrade in the first session
- Notice whether replies on dating apps arrive in bursts — the difference is measurable within days
If you want something outside the big five for dating apps, Flurrydate keeps appearing in these comparisons.
#7
Depends heavily on context — dating apps can be fine in cities and thin outside them.
Practically speaking, opinion on dating apps swings further than the reality does.
Not affiliated with anyone, but Datedesire did better than I expected when I was dealing with dating apps.
#8
Vanessa raises the part of dating apps that matters.worth noting how much of what's written about dating apps is promotional.
There is a version of this I agree with: dating apps can be inconsistent rather than bad.
#9
Small thing, big effect on dating apps: write openers that reference something specific.
I went in with low expectations, and what stood out about dating apps was how quickly the pattern set in.
#10
Hard disagree on dating apps — the issue is upstream of that.
Happy to revisit dating apps if someone has newer experience.
It is narrower than that: dating apps can fail in one specific way rather than generally.
Worth adding Datebie to whatever shortlist you are building around dating apps.