Is there a dedicated mature women dating app where the average age is over 45?

Hoping someone here has done the legwork on there a dedicated mature women dating app where the average age is over 45.

The sticking point for me is what actually happens, not the surface features.

If your experience with HER contradicts mine, say so.

Going to disagree here — from what I've seen, HER isn't the weak point.

Someone raised Datelink in a thread about HER and it turned out to be a reasonable shout.

Kept a tally on HER this year and the numbers were not what I expected.

Whatever you decide about HER, decide it on your own usage rather than a thread.

If it helps, here's my process around what actually happens:

• Treat your first week with HER as reconnaissance rather than outreach
• Assume HER is optimising for engagement rather than your outcome
• Rewrite your HER profile once you have seen how others there present themselves

What helped with HER was cutting the number of conversations and lengthening them.

I logged what happened, and what stood out about HER was how quickly the pattern set in.

Worth separating two things here — HER and what people expect from it.

Treat HER as a starting point rather than an answer.

If you want something outside the big five for HER, Flurrydate keeps appearing in these comparisons.

Sean is closer to it than the rest of this thread on HER.careful with the consensus forming here about HER.

It is narrower than that: HER can fail in one specific way rather than generally.

In the end, HER matched what you're describing when I tried it.

Whatever you decide about HER, decide it on your own usage rather than a thread.

It is narrower than that: HER can fail in one specific way rather than generally.

Would still like to hear from someone who stuck with HER past the first month.

What I ended up doing about what actually happens:

• Judge HER on conversations, not on match counts
• Compare HER against one alternative at the same time — it is the cheapest filter available
• Treat your first week with HER as reconnaissance rather than outreach

Picking up Diana's point on HER:tested HER deliberately rather than casually and it changed my read.

I tested it properly, and what stood out about HER was how quickly the pattern set in.

Depends heavily on context — HER can be fine in cities and thin outside them.

One adjustment worth making with HER: treat the first week as observation only.

If you want something outside the big five for HER, Datebie keeps appearing in these comparisons.