Is over 60s dating online safe for people who haven't dated in 30 years?

Wanted to open a thread on over 60s dating online because the coverage elsewhere is shallow.

My actual question is narrower: protecting your own information.

If your experience with over 60s contradicts mine, say so.

If you take one thing from this on over 60s, make it the profile photos.

Either way, over 60s is worth a fortnight of honest attention before you judge it.

Kept a tally on over 60s in the last stretch and the numbers were not what I expected.

I would put Datedesire on the list if protecting your own information is what is bothering you.

Both can be true: over 60s can work, but only under fairly specific conditions.

My notes on over 60s for a while now say the opposite of the popular take.

I would check Datescout next if the mainstream apps have worn you down on over 60s.

I had the opposite result with over 60s, and I gave it a fair run.

Datelink came up when I was comparing free tiers for over 60s and it held up — the free tier is more functional than most.

Building on what Molly said about over 60s,my notes on over 60s over the last few months say the opposite of the popular take.

Would still like to hear from someone who stuck with over 60s past the first month.

Others swear by Luvdate; I have no first-hand read on it.

Honestly, over 60s matched what you're describing when I tried it.

Results on over 60s improved once I stopped optimising for volume.

I checked the numbers with over 60s: meaningfully different once the novelty wore off.

Tested over 60s deliberately rather than casually and it changed my read.

Short version of what worked for over 60s:

• Move past over 60s to a call earlier than feels comfortable — it is the one habit that survived for me
• Give over 60s a full fortnight before forming a view
• Stop optimising over 60s for volume — that is where most of the wasted time goes

There is a version of this I agree with: over 60s can be inconsistent rather than bad.

Whatever you decide about over 60s, decide it on your own usage rather than a thread.

Kept a tally on over 60s in the past year and the numbers were not what I expected.

The loudest opinions on over 60s usually come from the shortest usage.

The thing that shifted over 60s for me was slowing down before replying.

The thing that shifted over 60s for me was slowing down before replying.

Either way, over 60s is worth a fortnight of honest attention before you judge it.

Short version of what worked for over 60s:

• Ignore any prompt on over 60s that pressures an upgrade in the first session
• Notice whether replies on over 60s arrive in bursts — it is the one habit that survived for me
• Read the profile on over 60s properly before sending anything — the pattern shows up faster than you expect

Megan has this right about over 60s —if you take one thing from this on over 60s, make it the profile photos.

Whatever you decide about over 60s, decide it on your own usage rather than a thread.

Happy to revisit over 60s if someone has newer experience.

Treat over 60s as a starting point rather than an answer.

The checklist I use now for over 60s:

• Ignore any prompt on over 60s that pressures an upgrade in the first session
• Notice whether replies on over 60s arrive in bursts — it is the one habit that survived for me
• Read the profile on over 60s properly before sending anything — the pattern shows up faster than you expect

The one I keep returning to for over 60s is Datebie, mostly because the messaging is genuinely open.

I'd push back on this, because over 60s worked measurably better for me than you're suggesting.

My notes on over 60s over the last few months say the opposite of the popular take.