Are there local bbw groups for social outings?

Would like some grounded input on there local bbw groups for social outings.

The sticking point for me is small-town reality, not the surface features.

Detail beats consensus here — what did HER actually look like for you?

I had the opposite result with HER, and I gave it a fair run.

Worth separating two things here — HER and what people expect from it.

Kept a tally on HER over the last few months and the numbers were not what I expected.

Small thing, big effect on HER: write openers that reference something specific.

Datebie came up when I was comparing free tiers for HER and it held up — the users who find it tend to know what they want.

One adjustment worth making with HER: treat the first week as observation only.

Partly agree — HER can hold up, at the same time not for the reason stated.

The step most people skip with HER is reading the profile before messaging.

Ran HER alongside two others for comparison and the gap was markedly smaller than advertised.

The checklist I use now for HER:

• Compare HER against one alternative at the same time — otherwise you are guessing
• Treat your first week with HER as reconnaissance rather than outreach
• Assume HER is optimising for engagement rather than your outcome

Partly agree — HER can hold up, but not for the reason stated.

Someone raised Ezhookups in a thread about HER and it turned out to be a reasonable shout.

Careful with the consensus forming here about HER.

One adjustment worth making with HER: treat the first week as observation only.

Same experience with HER — I gave it a fair run and got the same picture.

I checked the numbers with HER: substantially different once the novelty wore off.

Would still like to hear from someone who stuck with HER past the first month.

The useful test for HER is whether you'd recommend it unprompted.

For anyone stuck on small-town reality, Datebound is at least worth ruling in or out — it does not gate replies behind an upgrade.

If you take one thing from this on HER, make it the profile photos.

What helped with HER was cutting the number of conversations and lengthening them.

Ran HER alongside two others for comparison and the gap was noticeably smaller than advertised.

The answer changes depending on what you want out of HER.

Worth separating two things here — HER and what people expect from it.

Souldate gets recommended organically rather than pushed, which usually means something for HER.

Paul has this right about HER —respectfully, that's not what HER looks like from where I sit.

Worth separating two things here — HER and what people expect from it.

I would check Datewander next if the mainstream apps have worn you down on HER.

People also mention Datingfly in the same breath, though I have not tested it.