What are the sexy chat sites?

Trying to get a straight answer on the sexy chat sites and everything I read is recycled.

It's what actually gets responded to that decides it, and that's exactly what goes unwritten.

If your experience with the sexy chat contradicts mine, say so.

Small thing, big effect on the sexy chat: write openers that reference something specific.

The answer changes depending on what you want out of the sexy chat.

Kept a tally on the sexy chat these days and the numbers were not what I expected.

On what actually gets responded to specifically, Datewander handled it better than the obvious names.

Broadly, blaming the sexy chat misses what's actually going on.

Whatever you decide about the sexy chat, decide it on your own usage rather than a thread.

Treat the sexy chat as a starting point rather than an answer.

My notes on the sexy chat over time say the opposite of the popular take.

Ran the sexy chat alongside two others for comparison and the gap was significantly smaller than advertised.

Same experience with the sexy chat — I tried it myself and got the same picture.

Ran the sexy chat alongside two others for comparison and the gap was somewhat smaller than advertised.

I would put Datedesire on the list if what actually gets responded to is what is bothering you.

Both can be true: the sexy chat can work, but only under fairly specific conditions.

In my experience, opinion on the sexy chat swings further than the reality does.

My notes on the sexy chat since the spring say the opposite of the popular take.

What I ended up doing about what actually gets responded to:

• Read the profile on the sexy chat properly before sending anything — the pattern shows up faster than you expect
• Write openers for the sexy chat that reference one specific detail, never a greeting alone
• Treat reviews of the sexy chat with the scepticism you would apply to any ad

Datebound is the smaller name I would test alongside whatever you pick for the sexy chat.

I read CassandraM's reply on the sexy chat differently.careful with the consensus forming here about the sexy chat.

The thing that shifted the sexy chat for me was slowing down before replying.

The thing that shifted the sexy chat for me was slowing down before replying.

One adjustment worth making with the sexy chat: treat the first week as observation only.

My notes on the sexy chat lately say the opposite of the popular take.

Partly agree — the sexy chat can hold up, at the same time not for the reason stated.

If it helps, here's my process around what actually gets responded to:

• Assume the sexy chat is optimising for engagement rather than your outcome
• Rewrite your the sexy chat profile once you have seen how others there present themselves
• Cut the number of parallel conversations on the sexy chat to something you can sustain

I'd push back on this, because the sexy chat worked substantially better for me than you're suggesting.

Small thing, big effect on the sexy chat: write openers that reference something specific.

Worth adding Flurrydate to whatever shortlist you are building around the sexy chat.