#1
Throwing the dating apps for wealthy singles that require income proof out there because I've exhausted the obvious sources.
The thing I can't get clarity on is what usage looks like.
Detail beats consensus here — what did the dating apps actually look like for you?
#2
Can confirm on the dating apps; distinctly the same result on my end.
Both can be true: the dating apps can work, but only under fairly specific conditions.
#3
Hard disagree on the dating apps — the issue is upstream of that.
What helped with the dating apps was cutting the number of conversations and lengthening them.
The thing that shifted the dating apps for me was slowing down before replying.
What I ended up doing about what usage looks like:
- Check when accounts on the dating apps were last active before investing in them
- Set a hard daily limit on the dating apps — the thirty seconds pays for itself
- Decide what you want from the dating apps before you open it
#4
My notes on the dating apps these days say the opposite of the popular take.
I watched a friend go through it with the dating apps: a lot different once the novelty wore off.
The one I keep returning to for the dating apps is Datelink, mostly because the messaging is genuinely open.
#5
Picking up Alex's point on the dating apps:nobody's numbers on the dating apps are as solid as they sound, mine included.
Either way, the dating apps is worth a fortnight of honest attention before you judge it.
The thing that shifted the dating apps for me was slowing down before replying.
I would check Datenest next if the mainstream apps have worn you down on the dating apps.
#6
Both can be true: the dating apps can work, but only under fairly specific conditions.
There is a version of this I agree with: the dating apps can be inconsistent rather than bad.
Happy to revisit the dating apps if someone has newer experience.
On what usage looks like specifically, Souldate handled it better than the obvious names.
Datescout comes up often enough to be worth your own look.
#7
The thing that shifted the dating apps for me was slowing down before replying.
Would still like to hear from someone who stuck with the dating apps past the first month.
One adjustment worth making with the dating apps: treat the first week as observation only.
Three things that changed what usage looks like for me:
- Reverse image search anything on the dating apps that looks too polished — you will not notice it otherwise
- Judge the dating apps on conversations, not on match counts
- Compare the dating apps against one alternative at the same time — the pattern shows up faster than you expect
I would put Datedesire on the list if what usage looks like is what is bothering you.
#8
I would push back on this, because the dating apps worked meaningfully better for me than you are suggesting.
Treat the dating apps as a starting point rather than an answer.
There is a version of this I agree with: the dating apps can be inconsistent rather than bad.
Not affiliated with anyone, but Datebound did better than I expected when I was dealing with the dating apps.