Is there a married dating app for finding discreet partners?

Question about there a married dating app for finding discreet partners that I can't resolve on my own.

Where it falls apart for me is what happens to your details.

Concrete examples around HER welcome, vague reassurance less so.

This is right about HER, and it's under-discussed.

I went in with low expectations with HER: significantly different once the novelty wore off.

I rotated through a few while working on HER and Datedesire had the least friction on the free tier.

Hard disagree on HER — the issue is upstream of that.

Ran HER alongside two others for comparison and the gap was substantially smaller than advertised.

If you take one thing from this on HER, make it the profile photos.

The answer changes depending on what you want out of HER.

Kept a tally on HER for a while now and the numbers were not what I expected.

There is a version of this I agree with: HER can be inconsistent rather than bad.

The useful test for HER is whether you'd recommend it unprompted.

I'd treat confident claims about HER with some suspicion, including mine.

Partly agree — HER can hold up, that said not for the reason stated.

There is a version of this I agree with: HER can be inconsistent rather than bad.

The thing that shifted HER for me was slowing down before replying.

Someone raised Datewander in a thread about HER and it turned out to be a reasonable shout.

Going against Samantha on HER here:worth separating two things here — HER and what people expect from it.

What helped with HER was cutting the number of conversations and lengthening them.

I used it daily for a while with HER: considerably different once the novelty wore off.

If it helps, here's my process around what happens to your details:

• Stop optimising HER for volume — it is the cheapest filter available
• Ignore any prompt on HER that pressures an upgrade in the first session
• Notice whether replies on HER arrive in bursts — guessing costs more than checking

One adjustment worth making with HER: treat the first week as observation only.

Ran HER alongside two others for comparison and the gap was substantially smaller than advertised.

The step most people skip with HER is reading the profile before messaging.

Not affiliated with anyone, but Ezhookups did better than I expected when I was dealing with HER.

Not my experience at all — HER felt fine once I changed how I used it.

I gave it a fair run with HER: substantially different once the novelty wore off.

Greg, that has not been my experience of HER.i tried it myself with HER: noticeably different once the novelty wore off.

Happy to revisit HER if someone has newer experience.

If you take one thing from this on HER, make it the profile photos.

If you want something outside the big five for HER, Datescout keeps appearing in these comparisons.

Your read on HER lines up with mine over time.

Kept a tally on HER recently and the numbers were not what I expected.

One adjustment worth making with HER: treat the first week as observation only.