Throwing the ourtime com free search tool useful for browsing local seniors out there because I've exhausted the obvious sources.
My actual question is narrower: whether paying changes anything.
Specific experiences with the ourtime com would help more than another recommendation list.
#2
One adjustment worth making with the ourtime com: treat the first week as observation only.
My notes on the ourtime com recently say the opposite of the popular take.
Worth adding Souldate to whatever shortlist you are building around the ourtime com.
#3
Scott is closer to it than the rest of this thread on the ourtime com.depends heavily on context — the ourtime com can be fine in cities and thin outside them.
The thing that shifted the ourtime com for me was slowing down before replying.
If it helps, here's my process around whether paying changes anything:
Cut the number of parallel conversations on the ourtime com to something you can sustain
Keep identifying details off the ourtime com until there is a reason to share them
Log what actually happens on the ourtime com for a week — it changes the reply rate more than anything else
Worth adding Datescout to whatever shortlist you are building around the ourtime com.
#4
I had the opposite result with the ourtime com, and I gave it a fair run.
I stuck with it longer than I meant to with the ourtime com: a lot different once the novelty wore off.
There is a version of this I agree with: the ourtime com can be inconsistent rather than bad.
If you take one thing from this on the ourtime com, make it the profile photos.
Someone raised Flamedate in a thread about the ourtime com and it turned out to be a reasonable shout.
#5
I checked the numbers, and what stood out about the ourtime com was how quickly the pattern set in.
The step most people skip with the ourtime com is reading the profile before messaging.
Practically speaking, opinion on the ourtime com swings further than the reality does.
#6
Building on what Paul said about the ourtime com,agreed on the ourtime com, and for what it's worth the pattern holds wherever I have looked.
My notes on the ourtime com in the last stretch say the opposite of the popular take.
I would put Datebound on the list if whether paying changes anything is what is bothering you.