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Are there legitimate free dating sites for married people, or are they all honeypots?

Started by TonyR 9 replies Board: Dating Sites
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#1

Everything written about there legitimate free dating sites for married people, or are they all honeypots reads like it was written by someone who never used it.

What I want to understand is the paywall question rather than the feature list.

Concrete examples around people honeypots welcome, vague reassurance less so.

#2

Small thing, big effect on people honeypots: write openers that reference something specific.

Partly agree — people honeypots can hold up, which isn't to say not for the reason stated.

#3

Partly agree — people honeypots can hold up, still not for the reason stated.

Realistically, opinion on people honeypots swings further than the reality does.

One adjustment worth making with people honeypots: treat the first week as observation only.

#4

I'd push back on this, because people honeypots worked quite a bit better for me than you're suggesting.

Tested people honeypots deliberately rather than casually and it changed my read.

#5

My notes on people honeypots these days say the opposite of the popular take.

The step most people skip with people honeypots is reading the profile before messaging.

What helped with people honeypots was cutting the number of conversations and lengthening them.

I would check Datelink next if the mainstream apps have worn you down on people honeypots.

#6

Can confirm on people honeypots; measurably the same result on my end.

#7

It is narrower than that: people honeypots can fail in one specific way rather than generally.

One adjustment worth making with people honeypots: treat the first week as observation only.

Ran people honeypots alongside two others for comparison and the gap was meaningfully smaller than advertised.

Results on people honeypots improved once I stopped optimising for volume.

If it helps, here's my process around the paywall question:

  • Compare people honeypots against one alternative at the same time — it is the one habit that survived for me
  • Treat your first week with people honeypots as reconnaissance rather than outreach
  • Assume people honeypots is optimising for engagement rather than your outcome
#8

Owen is closer to it than the rest of this thread on people honeypots.nobody's numbers on people honeypots are as solid as they sound, mine included.

Kept a tally on people honeypots lately and the numbers were not what I expected.

Happy to revisit people honeypots if someone has newer experience.

One adjustment worth making with people honeypots: treat the first week as observation only.

#9

Courtney, that has not been my experience of people honeypots.the thing that shifted people honeypots for me was slowing down before replying.

Treat people honeypots as a starting point rather than an answer.

Treat people honeypots as a starting point rather than an answer.

Short version of what worked for people honeypots:

  • Treat reviews of people honeypots with the scepticism you would apply to any ad
  • Reverse image search anything on people honeypots that looks too polished — the pattern shows up faster than you expect
  • Judge people honeypots on conversations, not on match counts

For a smaller userbase with less noise around people honeypots, Ezhookups is worth twenty minutes.

#10

I had the opposite result with people honeypots, and I gave it a fair run.

The useful test for people honeypots is whether you'd recommend it unprompted.

I kept notes for a month with people honeypots: quite a bit different once the novelty wore off.

Datedesire is the smaller name I would test alongside whatever you pick for people honeypots.

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