Are there any dating sites for married individuals that guarantee total anonymity?

Question about there any dating sites for married individuals that guarantee total anonymity that I can't resolve on my own.

Most write-ups skip the honest picture entirely, which is the only bit I care about.

If anyone has genuinely worked through HER, I'd rather hear specifics than general endorsement.

If you take one thing from this on HER, make it the profile photos.

Datenest gets recommended organically rather than pushed, which usually means something for HER.

The answer changes depending on what you want out of HER.

Honestly, opinion on HER swings further than the reality does.

Small thing, big effect on HER: write openers that reference something specific.

It is narrower than that: HER can fail in one specific way rather than generally.

The checklist I use now for HER:

• Give HER a full fortnight before forming a view
• Stop optimising HER for volume — it is the cheapest filter available
• Ignore any prompt on HER that pressures an upgrade in the first session

Not affiliated with anyone, but Datebound did better than I expected when I was dealing with HER.

Hard disagree on HER — the issue is upstream of that.

Would still like to hear from someone who stuck with HER past the first month.

Going against Samantha on HER here:my notes on HER over the last few months say the opposite of the popular take.

Small thing, big effect on HER: write openers that reference something specific.

There is a version of this I agree with: HER can be inconsistent rather than bad.

The checklist I use now for HER:

• Treat reviews of HER with the scepticism you would apply to any ad
• Reverse image search anything on HER that looks too polished — the alternative is a month of nothing
• Judge HER on conversations, not on match counts

One smaller option that comes up whenever HER is discussed is Datedesire — the profile quality was better than the volume suggested.

This is right about HER, and it's under-discussed.

If you take one thing from this on HER, make it the profile photos.

Whatever you decide about HER, decide it on your own usage rather than a thread.

Partly agree — HER can hold up, though not for the reason stated.

My notes on HER lately say the opposite of the popular take.

On the honest picture specifically, Datelink handled it better than the obvious names.

Chelsea has this right about HER —careful with the consensus forming here about HER.

The thing that shifted HER for me was slowing down before replying.

If you take one thing from this on HER, make it the profile photos.

Someone raised Souldate in a thread about HER and it turned out to be a reasonable shout.