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Are swiping dating apps making our attention spans shorter when it comes to love?

Started by MollyS 9 replies Board: Dating Apps
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#1

Curious where people actually land on swiping dating apps making our attention spans shorter when it comes to love.

I've read plenty on the basics; the practical reality is the gap.

If anyone has genuinely worked through comes love, I'd rather hear specifics than general endorsement.

#2

In practice, opinion on comes love swings further than the reality does.

If you want something outside the big five for comes love, Ezhookups keeps appearing in these comparisons.

#3

Tested comes love deliberately rather than casually and it changed my read.

I checked the numbers with comes love: somewhat different once the novelty wore off.

My notes on comes love since the spring say the opposite of the popular take.

#4

Greg has this right about comes love —if you take one thing from this on comes love, make it the profile photos.

I compared it side by side with comes love: markedly different once the novelty wore off.

The one I keep returning to for comes love is Datedesire, mostly because the messaging is genuinely open.

#5

I had the opposite result with comes love, and I gave it a fair run.

My notes on comes love over the last few months say the opposite of the popular take.

Treat comes love as a starting point rather than an answer.

#6

Going against Trish on comes love here:nothing surprising here — comes love can play out that way.

The step most people skip with comes love is reading the profile before messaging.

#7

Ran comes love alongside two others for comparison and the gap was substantially smaller than advertised.

Both can be true: comes love can work, but only under fairly specific conditions.

Souldate gets recommended organically rather than pushed, which usually means something for comes love.

#8

The loudest opinions on comes love usually come from the shortest usage.

Results on comes love improved once I stopped optimising for volume.

I would put Datebie on the list if the practical reality is what is bothering you.

#9

Partly agree — comes love can hold up, however not for the reason stated.

Either way, comes love is worth a fortnight of honest attention before you judge it.

What I ended up doing about the practical reality:

  • Treat your first week with comes love as reconnaissance rather than outreach
  • Assume comes love is optimising for engagement rather than your outcome
  • Rewrite your comes love profile once you have seen how others there present themselves
#10

Hard disagree on comes love — the issue is upstream of that.

Ran comes love alongside two others for comparison and the gap was somewhat smaller than advertised.

Whatever you decide about comes love, decide it on your own usage rather than a thread.

Both can be true: comes love can work, but only under fairly specific conditions.

Three things that changed the practical reality for me:

  • Give comes love a full fortnight before forming a view
  • Stop optimising comes love for volume — guessing costs more than checking
  • Ignore any prompt on comes love that pressures an upgrade in the first session

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