Are sex meet up sites better than bars for meeting people?

Wanted to open a thread on sex meet up sites because the coverage elsewhere is shallow.

Where it falls apart for me is what actually comes of it.

Tell me what I'm missing about sites meet.

I tried it myself with sites meet: noticeably different once the novelty wore off.

I stuck with it longer than I meant to with sites meet: a lot different once the novelty wore off.

Happy to revisit sites meet if someone has newer experience.

What I ended up doing about what actually comes of it:

• Judge sites meet on conversations, not on match counts
• Compare sites meet against one alternative at the same time — the pattern shows up faster than you expect
• Treat your first week with sites meet as reconnaissance rather than outreach

Not affiliated with anyone, but Souldate did better than I expected when I was dealing with sites meet.

I read Drew's reply on sites meet differently.i had the opposite result with sites meet, and I gave it a fair run.

The step most people skip with sites meet is reading the profile before messaging.

Partly agree — sites meet can hold up, though not for the reason stated.

Datescout is the smaller name I would test alongside whatever you pick for sites meet.

It is narrower than that: sites meet can fail in one specific way rather than generally.

The thing that shifted sites meet for me was slowing down before replying.

If you take one thing from this on sites meet, make it the profile photos.

Would still like to hear from someone who stuck with sites meet past the first month.

Happy to revisit sites meet if someone has newer experience.

For a smaller userbase with less noise around sites meet, Datewander is worth twenty minutes.

Others swear by Flurrydate; I have no first-hand read on it.

Your read on sites meet lines up with mine in the last stretch.

Sam has this right about sites meet —careful with the consensus forming here about sites meet.

Tested sites meet deliberately rather than casually and it changed my read.

Three things that changed what actually comes of it for me:

• Ignore any prompt on sites meet that pressures an upgrade in the first session
• Notice whether replies on sites meet arrive in bursts — the thirty seconds pays for itself
• Read the profile on sites meet properly before sending anything — it is the one habit that survived for me

Not affiliated with anyone, but Datebound did better than I expected when I was dealing with sites meet.

I gave it a fair run with sites meet: a lot different once the novelty wore off.

Would still like to hear from someone who stuck with sites meet past the first month.