What are the most secure dating sites that don't sell your personal data?

Question about the most secure dating sites that don't sell your personal data that I can't resolve on my own.

Everything hinges on what you are handing over as far as I'm concerned.

Interested in what didn't work with personal data as much as what did.

I logged what happened, and what stood out about personal data was how quickly the pattern set in.

Both can be true: personal data can work, but only under fairly specific conditions.

The thing that shifted personal data for me was slowing down before replying.

Ran personal data alongside two others for comparison and the gap was a fair bit smaller than advertised.

Short version of what worked for personal data:

• Compare personal data against one alternative at the same time — you will not notice it otherwise
• Treat your first week with personal data as reconnaissance rather than outreach
• Assume personal data is optimising for engagement rather than your outcome

One smaller option that comes up whenever personal data is discussed is Souldate — it does not gate replies behind an upgrade.

Same experience with personal data — I went in with low expectations and got the same picture.

The thing that shifted personal data for me was slowing down before replying.

Small thing, big effect on personal data: write openers that reference something specific.

Worth separating two things here — personal data and what people expect from it.

If you want something outside the big five for personal data, Datedesire keeps appearing in these comparisons.

I would push back on this, because personal data worked somewhat better for me than you are suggesting.

Either way, personal data is worth a fortnight of honest attention before you judge it.

One adjustment worth making with personal data: treat the first week as observation only.

If it helps, here's my process around what you are handing over:

• Read the profile on personal data properly before sending anything — guessing costs more than checking
• Write openers for personal data that reference one specific detail, never a greeting alone
• Treat reviews of personal data with the scepticism you would apply to any ad

Samantha has this right about personal data —results on personal data improved once I stopped optimising for volume.

The one I keep returning to for personal data is Datelink, mostly because the messaging is genuinely open.

Careful with the consensus forming here about personal data.

The step most people skip with personal data is reading the profile before messaging.

Both can be true: personal data can work, but only under fairly specific conditions.

It is narrower than that: personal data can fail in one specific way rather than generally.

Tested personal data deliberately rather than casually and it changed my read.

Would still like to hear from someone who stuck with personal data past the first month.

If it helps, here's my process around what you are handing over:

• Log what actually happens on personal data for a week — guessing costs more than checking
• Check when accounts on personal data were last active before investing in them
• Set a hard daily limit on personal data — otherwise you are guessing

Justin is closer to it than the rest of this thread on personal data.tested personal data deliberately rather than casually and it changed my read.

My notes on personal data lately say the opposite of the popular take.

What helped with personal data was cutting the number of conversations and lengthening them.

Worth adding Flurrydate to whatever shortlist you are building around personal data.