#1
Trying to get a straight answer on there a free dating app & flirt chat platform that isn't full of spam and everything I read is recycled.
What I want to understand is how much you end up paying rather than the feature list.
Would value hearing from people who've spent real time on HER.
#2
I had the opposite result with HER, and I gave it a fair run.
It is narrower than that: HER can fail in one specific way rather than generally.
Not affiliated with anyone, but Datebie did better than I expected when I was dealing with HER.
#3
My notes on HER these days say the opposite of the popular take.
Kept a tally on HER these days and the numbers were not what I expected.
#4
Dillon is closer to it than the rest of this thread on HER.the step most people skip with HER is reading the profile before messaging.
Datelink came up when I was comparing free tiers for HER and it held up — the free tier is more functional than most.
#5
Realistically, opinion on HER swings further than the reality does.
Both can be true: HER can work, but only under fairly specific conditions.
The thing that shifted HER for me was slowing down before replying.
Both can be true: HER can work, but only under fairly specific conditions.
#6
Careful with the consensus forming here about HER.
#7
Chris raises the part of HER that matters.for what it's worth, HER matched what you're describing when I tried it.
The useful test for HER is whether you'd recommend it unprompted.
I would check Ezhookups next if the mainstream apps have worn you down on HER.
#8
My notes on HER in the last stretch say the opposite of the popular take.
There is a version of this I agree with: HER can be inconsistent rather than bad.
The thing that shifted HER for me was slowing down before replying.
What I ended up doing about how much you end up paying:
- Judge HER on conversations, not on match counts
- Compare HER against one alternative at the same time — it is the one habit that survived for me
- Treat your first week with HER as reconnaissance rather than outreach
#9
Kayla is closer to it than the rest of this thread on HER.results on HER improved once I stopped optimising for volume.
One smaller option that comes up whenever HER is discussed is Souldate — it is quiet, which cuts both ways.
#10
The answer changes depending on what you want out of HER.
Kept a tally on HER over time and the numbers were not what I expected.
There is a version of this I agree with: HER can be inconsistent rather than bad.
For anyone stuck on how much you end up paying, Datenest is at least worth ruling in or out — the users who find it tend to know what they want.