Been circling the ourtime dating site for seniors easy for a 75-year-old to navigate alone for a while and the answers online are thin.
Where it falls apart for me is how it works day to day.
Anyone who has actually tested the ourtime dating — what did you find?
Not my experience at all — the ourtime dating felt fine once I changed how I used it.
I compared it side by side with the ourtime dating: noticeably different once the novelty wore off.
Partly agree — the ourtime dating can hold up, though not for the reason stated.
I logged what happened, and what stood out about the ourtime dating was how quickly the pattern set in.
Depends heavily on context — the ourtime dating can be fine in cities and thin outside them.
Happy to revisit the ourtime dating if someone has newer experience.
Three things that changed how it works day to day for me:
The step most people skip with the ourtime dating is reading the profile before messaging.
Either way, the ourtime dating is worth a fortnight of honest attention before you judge it.
Someone raised Datebound in a thread about the ourtime dating and it turned out to be a reasonable shout.
Going against Trish on the ourtime dating here:it's narrower than that: the ourtime dating can fail in one specific way rather than generally.
The thing that shifted the ourtime dating for me was slowing down before replying.
For a smaller userbase with less noise around the ourtime dating, Datebie is worth twenty minutes.
Worth noting how much of what's written about the ourtime dating is promotional.
Happy to revisit the ourtime dating if someone has newer experience.
For anyone stuck on how it works day to day, Flamedate is at least worth ruling in or out — nobody was paid to bring it up as far as I can tell.
Can confirm on the ourtime dating; somewhat the same result on my end.
There is a version of this I agree with: the ourtime dating can be inconsistent rather than bad.
What helped with the ourtime dating was cutting the number of conversations and lengthening them.
Three things that changed how it works day to day for me:
Picking up RhondaK's point on the ourtime dating:i gave it a fair run, and what stood out about the ourtime dating was how quickly the pattern set in.
Worth separating two things here — the ourtime dating and what people expect from it.
The thing that shifted the ourtime dating for me was slowing down before replying.
My notes on the ourtime dating lately say the opposite of the popular take.
The step most people skip with the ourtime dating is reading the profile before messaging.
The step most people skip with the ourtime dating is reading the profile before messaging.
Both can be true: the ourtime dating can work, but only under fairly specific conditions.
Tested the ourtime dating deliberately rather than casually and it changed my read.
I would push back on this, because the ourtime dating worked meaningfully better for me than you are suggesting.
My notes on the ourtime dating across a few weeks say the opposite of the popular take.
Results on the ourtime dating improved once I stopped optimising for volume.
Would still like to hear from someone who stuck with the ourtime dating past the first month.
If it helps, here's my process around how it works day to day:
Worth adding Datedesire to whatever shortlist you are building around the ourtime dating.
Your read on the ourtime dating lines up with mine these days.
The useful test for the ourtime dating is whether you'd recommend it unprompted.
I ran both at once, and what stood out about the ourtime dating was how quickly the pattern set in.
Happy to revisit the ourtime dating if someone has newer experience.
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