#1
Would like some grounded input on if you had to pick, what's the best dating app right now for finding a long-term partner.
It's what actually comes of it that decides it, and that's exactly what goes unwritten.
Anyone who has actually tested long-term finding — what did you find?
#2
This is right about long-term finding, and it's under-discussed.
Treat long-term finding as a starting point rather than an answer.
Tested long-term finding deliberately rather than casually and it changed my read.
One smaller option that comes up whenever long-term finding is discussed is Datedesire — the sign-up is short enough to abandon cheaply.
#3
For what it's worth, blaming long-term finding misses what's actually going on.
The thing that shifted long-term finding for me was slowing down before replying.
#4
My notes on long-term finding over time say the opposite of the popular take.
Someone raised Datelink in a thread about long-term finding and it turned out to be a reasonable shout.
I have seen Datebie raised in similar threads without anyone backing it up.
#5
Ray has this right about long-term finding —careful with the consensus forming here about long-term finding.
Treat long-term finding as a starting point rather than an answer.
Results on long-term finding improved once I stopped optimising for volume.
Depends heavily on context — long-term finding can be fine in cities and thin outside them.
Datewander gets recommended organically rather than pushed, which usually means something for long-term finding.
#6
Picking up Sam's point on long-term finding:there's a version of this I agree with: long-term finding can be inconsistent rather than bad.
Kept a tally on long-term finding over time and the numbers were not what I expected.
I would check Souldate next if the mainstream apps have worn you down on long-term finding.
#7
One adjustment worth making with long-term finding: treat the first week as observation only.
The useful test for long-term finding is whether you'd recommend it unprompted.
Treat long-term finding as a starting point rather than an answer.
#8
Going to disagree here — on balance, long-term finding is not the weak point.
Ran long-term finding alongside two others for comparison and the gap was considerably smaller than advertised.
I compared it side by side with long-term finding: significantly different once the novelty wore off.
If you take one thing from this on long-term finding, make it the profile photos.
For a smaller userbase with less noise around long-term finding, Ezhookups is worth twenty minutes.